I used this article I wrote up in 2006 after my marriage ended in 2001 as an inspiration for a recent blog post Wow it’s 2014 but, I have had such interest in the subject and questions about how to implement the changes you want to bring about in your life that will help you create an environment and mindset that will bring you what you desire- from success, to well being to control over your life and more you are looking for, that I have decided as we get ready to take off for a much needed vacation and a break from planning our wedding for June, to instead of picking more snippets from Conversations with God, I wrote all those years ago and writing yet another article from it, I would instead share the original.
This is a longer piece than I normally would put here, but I do not want to break it up and stretch it over months now that I am not posting as often, so I decided I would still break it up for an easier read, but instead of monthly I will go back to our old schedule and have it auto post over the next 3 weeks- April 7th, 14th and 21st. while we are away.
Enjoy and I pray that you find the tools in these words that touch you and help you motivate yourself to become the butterfly that lives within every one of us and is attainable by anyone willing to come out of their cocoon- I know I lived it.
Conversations with God
Part One: The do’s for your life.
We spend so much time as we grow up with the do nots. With the cant’s and shouldn’ts. We need some DO’s. This is not for the one days, these are for the nows.
I was married for many years and waited all those years for my husband to do for me.
A small example: I love flowers I rarely got any. I was waiting, always waiting for him to want to give me flowers and never just doing it for myself. When I found myself divorced one of the first things I did was fill my house with roses every week. I was not waiting anymore, I was doing.
We all start out as a blank slate. A child sees the world in wonder and awe and he or she does not stop to think, they just do. They experience, and they make time for what they want and need. In fact they insist on it. Children are considered very selfish, but in many ways they have not been societied out of the basic human trait of ME, because they are too young to understand that is not polite.
Watch a litter of puppies sometime they all fight over their place at the food bowl. They could not care less if their littermates eat. Children are the same. ME and MINE hold no shame. And talking care of what I want is squashed in our parent’s attempt to make kids fit into what is considered good manners and civility. Ever see a two year old with a lollypop? Last thing they want to do is share with you or a sibling.
As we grow we learn to conform, to put first, to hold back on what we want, to prioritize and to sacrifice. Sometimes these things are necessary. But you have to keep you in the mix or you are not only robbing yourself of your God given rights to take care of you, you are also risking your very health in not looking after the dos for yourself as well.
There was a book called I’M OK- YOU’RE OK. Perfect that is it in a nutshell you have to be OK for the world around you to be stable and sane and OK. So for the good of all let’s look out for the good of you.
What can you do today to make the world great?
Simple; start with you. It is easy to say, do, be, or have. The trick though is in actually putting those words into action. To me the bes and haves of the world are directly related to the dos. So that is where we are going to start.
First I want you do a self-examination. I want you to sit with a mirror in front of your face in a well lit room. The kitchen table your desk anywhere the light is good and you can sit comfortably. I want you to look at yourself. I do not care if you are 13, 30, 60, or 103. YOU are beautiful! YOU are handsome!
You are the most magnificent creature in that mirror! Why? Well the short list is because there is just one of you. In this entire world only one person is you; even if you are an identical twin. You may look physically alike, but you know inside you are the only you. So why would we not be beautiful? Why would you not be special?
Study that face. If you have lines from age, change that to the mark of wisdom brought on by time and the memories you have garnered while those wrinkles were earned.
If you are young and see only imperfection of youth, your face may not have blossomed yet your complexion may hold the sometimes unfairness of changing hormones or disproportionate facial features that puberty can encumber us with. But do not focus on the physical changes that are still evolving. Instead see the woman you will be, the man you are becoming. Do you see him? Do you see her in your eyes? You are there, just look.
Take pride in whom that person in the mirror is NOW and is destined to be. YOU have the gift to be anything and do anything. It all waits for you. And even if youth is gone, and you only see that time has passed and left her mark in graying hair and a slower step, there is nothing holding back your dreams either, but YOU!
Time can be very harsh in the payment she extracts for allowing you to use her. But until the sands run out, you still have the ability to do for you anything that your heart craves and your soul yearns for. You just have to have faith in you, and Do it!
I want you to be so in enamored with the person who’s light emanates from the looking glass that you smile when you meet your own reflection. I want you to take into your heart the feeling of such gratitude for who you are and what you are capable of doing and being and having because you deserve it. We all do.
I find this exercise in self-love works well with several minutes spent each day until you almost see another person looking back. And are comfortable in meeting the eyes you see in the mirror. When you look at yourself you find a cherished friend and know that person is greatly blessed and holds the keys to anything they want.
Remember self-love is the first love and without a great self-worth and genuine liking, respecting, and loving of the being you see in that mirror you will not be able to love another, bring love to you, nor garner all the bes, haves, and dos you rightfully deserve. So do not think you are vain nor conceited in your overwhelming belief that you ARE the best things since sliced bread! That YOU ARE the greatest and most wonderful of people and because you are, you are going to make such a difference in your own life and by doing so also in the life of those around you. It all starts with you.
Part 2: Conversations with God- still talking next week.
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