My beautiful mom who was a beauty queen, actress, and more
This is a rare Thursday post: Mom lost her long battle with cancer on Sunday. There will be no blog entry until June 10th, as we are going to be out of town and I just do not feel like writing until we return. Nor wish to ask anyone else to guest. I just want to leave this blog set and quiet while we go through our goodbyes
This is a hard time for my family and I appreciate all the kind letters, prayers and outpouring for love from everyone.
Though we hoped we would be able to see her beat this yet again as she lived through cancer in the 90’s, it was not to be this time. But she is no longer suffering she is free and it is up to us to carry on. I will be blogging about this further in the future.
Thanks for understanding and giving me this time- I will be back to help and share with you guys in June.
Mom and me a long time ago
Good bye Mom
My last gift to you
How can you put into words just who mom was? I guess for myself it depends on at what age you ask me. When I was little she was my protector when I was a child she was my guide, when a teen she was my adversary, as a young adult she was my friend. But as I grew up into the person I am now I came to see more sides to her. I found that she was stronger than I thought and wiser than I would admit.
She gave of herself to her family in a way that will live on in the children she taught those values to. Her wise words and the silly way she imparted useless facts still runs through my own family. The love of words and their meanings the insatiable need to know that kept the encyclopedias close at hand now our smart phones and Google will be the legacy of a mom who was so deep and curious. I do not know if it was possible to ever quench that thirst should she of had 100 lifetimes.
She told me often of places and things she would love to see but also resigned herself to never doing so. She used to tell me of her desire to go into forensic sciences or be a librarian, but felt even in her 50’s too old to make either a reality. Mom told me she was just a housewife as if that was a lesser endeavor than some of her dreams.
But while I know how proud she was to finish her high school diploma as an adult after failing to get the credits as a kid, just putting in the time but not doing the work when she was in high school. And I know she had dreams and what ifs.
She gave up a a blossoming acting career and more to be "just a housewife"
She also told me just a couple of weeks ago that we were her greatest accomplishment. That her and dad were directly responsible for fourteen people in this world and that was not a bad legacy. I told her one day mom you will be responsible for 1000’s of people being here and then even more. That, that is the best of us we can leave of our time here. She agreed
Mom also told me she did not think she counted for much had achieved much outside of us kids, and I told her again that in it’s self is enough. But you brought so much more than you will ever know you were a great wife, And a WONDERFUL Mother! You are still my role model I quote you daily. Your’ what goes around comes around, if you do not believe that then duck. Your’ a better world starts with one person, be that person. Your’ if the worst thing that can happen is no one can die it’s not that bad are my mantras as is first they came for the Jews… My life is intertwined with who you are and what you believe because you instilled in all of us a little piece of yourself without knowing it you were not just raising children you were planting seeds.
There was NOTHING ordinary or common or useless or unimportant about you. I always knew you were our glue. I always knew it was you that tied all of us together, not always easy, but you stood and did not waver. But I never knew how strong how brave and how much you could give and would give willingly to those you love until now.
Mom was unselfish to the end donating her cornias. So her eyes will still see and her gift will bring joy and light to people she never knew. Mom you were a true Angel in every sense.
I cannot think of a more fitting place for an Angel than where you are now.
Mom’s obit Holly Magers
Take Care
Sandy Metcalf
She also told me just a couple of weeks ago that we were her greatest accomplishment. Not her pageant wins, not her acting roles, not her titles and awards. But us.
That her and dad were directly responsible for fourteen people in this world and that was not a bad legacy. I told her one day mom you will be responsible for 1000’s of people being here and then even more. That, that is the best of us we can leave of our time here. She agreed
Mom also told me she did not think she counted for much had achieved much outside of us kids, and I told her again that in it’s self is enough. But you brought so much more than you will ever know you were a great wife, And a WONDERFUL Mother! You are still my role model I quote you daily. Your’ what goes around comes around, if you do not believe that then duck. Your’ a better world starts with one person, be that person. Your’ if the worst thing that can happen is no one can die it’s not that bad are my mantras as is first they came for the Jews… My life is intertwined with who you are and what you believe because you instilled in all of us a little piece of yourself without knowing it you were. You were not just raising children you were planting seeds.
There was NOTHING ordinary or common or useless or unimportant about you. I always knew you were our glue. I always knew it was you that tied all of us together, not always easy, but you stood and did not waver. But I never knew how strong how brave and how much you could give and would give willingly to those you love until now.
Mom was unselfish to the end donating her cornias. So her eyes will still see and her gift will bring joy and light to people she never knew. Mom you were a true Angel in every sense.
I cannot think of a more fitting place for an Angel than where you are now.
Mom’s obit Holly Magers
Take Care
Sandy Metcalf
