Conversations with God- wrapping it up
Part 1: Conversations with God
Part 2: Conversations with God- still talking
Conversations with God- wrapping it up
OK I asked you last week in Conversations with God- still talking to do a list. Do you have your list done? Did, you do your #1 yet? I hope so. Because now we are gonna do another list.
This one should be easier. I want you to make a list of all the things you are grateful for. Oprah said she does this and I have kept a journal since I was a girl and always started with I am grateful today for, but after my divorce I expanded it to all the things I was grateful for. You can do An I am grateful today list, or as I do also an I am grateful for things that are also ongoing and I will forever give thanks to God and the Universe for every day too.
Like for instance I am often thankful for the meal I am sitting at as many people do not have such abundance of food as I do. Or that my son cooked dinner for his brother and I. Or also for my Lab Sadie whom I am so grateful for her unwavering devotion every day. But some days she will do something that endears her to me even more like today she tried to bark and sneeze at the same time and it came out “garumph”. It was so sweet and she was completely confused over what had just happened to her. I am grateful for little things like that and that she shares her life with me. Most of my dogs no longer do as the kennel was retired in an effort to salvage my marriage. And for many years after my divorce I was dogless. God brought my Lab Sadie into my life because some people are better with a dog and I am one of those people.
Then I go into the blessings for family friends and other things that are more common and often taken for granted. I make sure daily that I remember how lucky I am for all I have and all who love me.
By writing a list of the things you are grateful for you will be giving back to the good energy and karma or whatever you wish to call it that surrounds us and infusing it with positive feelings that leads to more positive. And I truly believe what you give out what you get back and what you ask for you get even if you think you are not asking for it. If you are putting negative out you are asking for it back so in being grateful and saying thanks you are feeding the good in the world, and that helps counter when we do have negative thoughts and sadly even give into negative feelings and deeds.
Words can cut like a knife and are hard to retrieve so use yours wisely and softly.
With that we come to the third list I want you to write a list of regrets and transgressions, yours, or those done to you. Then I want you to forgive yourself and anyone who hurt you.
Read through this list as many times as you need to in order to forgive and let it go. Then I want you to get a fire safe container (I used the sink) and set the paper on fire. You are cleansing your heart and mind of all the negative, hateful, hurtful things you caused or were a part of.
Today you are starting fresh. DO NOT burn your list until you are ready to let go. But when you are you only get to burn it once. With the ashes goes all the negative energy and feelings. You will find a weight has lifted your spirit, and willpower. You will smile and if you are like me sweep all the ashes into a dustpan then walk out the backyard and let them blow away into the wind- You are free and now nothing is stopping you from doing anything on your I Want To Do For Me First list or in life!
Remember you MUST forgive to let go for your own emotional health and to move forward!
{Update April 2014 this article was written in 2006. Today finds me wiser for the journey more blessed for my choices secure in my life surrounded by more love and joy than I thought possible as I sat down and made my own list so long ago now.
Many changes I had not foreseen but all welcome.
For me to take the shattered pieces of divorce and use the tools I teach, but never thought I would use which took me to the place and person I am now.
And while may seem hard to believe , I am so GRATEFUL to John Metcalf for ending a marriage that I would have never left, as I stay. For in doing so, though it was purely selfish on his part and not for me at all. But by his actions he allowed me to grow by forcing me, to do so, and in that discovery find not only myself but let God lead me to a love I had no idea I was devoid of in my marriage.
I even told John this, and he asked so it lead you to Jack? And I said no it lead me to me, then God lead me to jack.
I am also so fortunate to discover that my sons Mike and John were the rocks that stood by me and became the white knights I had thought was their father’s place, and are the best of 21 years we were together. That had their dad not made the choices he did I would never have really seen how great were the men our sons became as they would never have been tested as we all were or would I have learned (and am still learning) the importance of being thankful for the blessings or the power not weakness in being humble and grateful or to appreciate simple things that at one time I took for granted.
And I swear it has made me a better person, and brought more value to myself and those around me, in a way I never could have imagined before I was forced upon this journey, but though forced onto the path of discovery, I chose the direction I took as you will chose yours. But I also let God lead.}
That is what I was taking about when I wrote Conversations with God- and he is still talking, and I am still listening, are you?
May you find as much inner peace as I have, on your own journey.
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