By the time this article post Jack and I will be married. Then it will be off to Hawaii for a much needed rest and enjoy our honeymoon.
I wanted to make June’s blog article about something fun and what is more fun than planning a wedding?
Well I can think of a lot of things when you are in the thick of it, but after the fact when you have tied your last bow and sewed your last lace tablecloth or crocheted your last doily there is much satisfaction knowing you did it and it will be the way you want it. Right?
I thought because of the headaches I overcame and money I saved as I put the decorations together for a couple thousand dollars compared to what it would have cost to purchase and it was done to my custom wants and needs by what I wanted our wedding to look like. We would avoid the pitfalls of not planning not having things mapped out and have a clear set of goals. So it should be a breeze.
But one of things about life is never say never be it the flowers that do not arrive on time, or are wrong or ????
So if you are getting married planning your big day on your own or working with a team of wedding professionals, spending thousands or doing it on a shoestring…..To save your sanity here are some things to consider.
1. Make a list and check it twice, no three times. But also throw the list away on the day of your wedding Easier that way and NO one but you will notice if things are not 100% on schedule or as you planned.
This day is about making a vow in front of people you love to someone you have committed your life to, not a list.
2. Remember to breathe. Not hyperventilate or meltdown give into unhappy tears as all the missteps will be forgotten when all is said and done. So just breathe and smile enjoy your day even if it is not perfect as your life together never will be. So why should you expect the wedding to be perfection?
3. Don’t get panicky over following a set course and making self-imposed deadlines. Your wedding invitation may say a certain time, but if you are a few minutes late your party will understand after all it is made up of people who love you. Better to be a composed bride ready to make that walk, than a hurried one. My advice relax you are not taking a test you are getting married so give yourself some slack.
4. Also the pictures, cake cutting, and other rituals do not have a time frame a correct way or is anyone who attends going to be grading you, so have fun! And give you and your new husband a break from the hustle you here, hustle you there that deadlines and schedules can impose. Remember this is your day, just for you two, and you get to do it your way. Even if you have a wedding coordinator they work for you not you them. Better to skip a step then fail to enjoy yourself.
5. Remember things will, go wrong. Accept that fact and move on. At the end of the day, it’s up to you to decide what you want to focus on to stand out once your big day arrives. As long as you keep in mind everyone at, and doing your wedding is human and fallible that there will be little glitches no one will notice but you and maybe a few big ones that are visible to your guest, but all in all it will be a beautiful day because it is YOUR’ wedding day and if you keep that in mind you will laugh about all the importance you put on things like the exact shade of your colors or missing flowers or that the music cut out or plays a little long because the machine did not work quite right when you came down the aisle as the important thing is you did make that walk and who was waiting for you at the end of it.
6. So choose to have fun! Choose to make this the best day for you, your husband and your guest. No matter what, drenched in a rain storm when it called for sun, or the minister is late, you can’t get your hair like you did when you practiced; the AC does not work- it does not matter. Adapt, make do, open a window, move indoors, leave your hair loose, play a few extra songs while you wait for the minister, just roll with it and HAVE FUN!!!!
Your day, but it will be up to how you let those little setbacks
effect you. Will it be GREAT no matter what? Or will it come apart at the
seams? That is entirely up to you. But my recommendation is let go some and
just make up your mind to enjoy it and have a wonderful time 
See you in July…
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