Wow it’s 2014, and as I told you last week this year I am going to take the blog in a new direction.
The funny thing about that decision is just how and what to do for this first blog article of the new year.
I knew I wanted to shift gears here, I knew I wanted to live mom’s mantra through here a little “A better world starts with one person, be that one person. Not just get stuck in the loop of Network Marketing that I felt I had said it all, and as a writer I wanted to branch out in trying to pay it forward using my voice in more diversified subjects in the articles I share.
And I also wanted to free myself up some as well. So one of the changes this year since we will be planning a wedding, going to Vegas in April and getting married in June then off to Hawaii for a honeymoon. And my time will be tied up off line this year, is I am going to be devoting less time online. However I still want to write for you.
So I am still going to do the blog I am just going to be doing it less frequently. I am now posting on the first Monday of every month, I may also post additional articles if I feel something is relevant enough to be shared sooner or more often, and may post more often in 2015 if I have more time to spend here. But for 2014 anyway this is the year of being a little selfish.
And because of my lead in I am going to start this year off with the subject of Selfishness.
If you have ever watched a litter of puppies, or a couple of two year olds you see we are born selfish, it is our instinctual self-preservation reaction to the world around us. Mine, ME and take care of number one- equals you survive.
If you eat first if you push others out of your way and do not share your resources, you are ensuring that you are the one that is the strongest and most likely to make it to adulthood in order to propagate. Nature loves to see the strong pass on genes no matter what species.
There is also a sneaky gene that nature rewards with longevity and reproductive rights as well, but the sneak is just as selfish as the young. Being selfish is good for us, but NOT, for society. We teach our puppies and our children that they must conform and resist the instinct to be selfish, in order to get along.
And
in general we need to reshape our young and therefore what ourselves evolve
into. Which is the civilized sharing individuals that work best with others to
have a successful interaction with people, but in spite of what we are told,
being a little selfish is still a good thing 
When you are a little selfish you like whom you are. When you like who you are, you are happy. When you are happy you are actually better for others and more likely to spread joy, than if you are always denying yourself in favor of another and unless it is a two way street you will not be happy.
I am not saying that to share yourself, to put others first on occasion is a bad thing it is the normal course of who, we are but also you need to remember when thinking of important things or people that you are one of them. You are just as important, just as worthy of your love, and your time.
Being a little selfish is healthy; you take better care of you when you think you are worth taking care of.
Being a little selfish helps you figure out who you are and what you want, so it is a useful tool.
You shouldn’t feel guilty because you won’t be selfish about everything or all the time, but you will take into account what it is you want and you need and use that introspective to not only know who it is you see in the mirror but also what makes that person happy and fulfilled.
Then you truly can be the better person that is going to make that better world my mom taught me we all should be striving for, but it starts with being a little selfish.
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